I’ve never seen my dad cry before! My grandmas, my aunts, grandad, and my mum too. I didn’t realise how much I and my getting married meant to them. It’s not a casual, nice celebration, it’s of big grand proportions of big grand and deep meaning. This overwhelmed me and I started crying too but the aachaar (pandit who does the ceremony) as well as some elders told me not to cry so I tried hard to hold it in.
We aren’t used to a type of respect which is independent of sex, money or education, which is far more fundamental. That’s what we have to work towards for true equality.
For change to occur, dialogues, debate, awareness, media attention triggering thought and questions in hard set ways of current society, and introspection all need to occur.
We all need to do our part;
1) Encourage respect and sensitivity in men and patriarchal women
2) Discourage patriarchal notionals within oneself, within one’s family or school/college. Counter them with arguements for Equality
3) Allow young men and women to be friends from childhood, get to know each other, develop respect and empathy for each other
The day I used my first German sentence in context was at the post office when I had to ask how much something was. I think he thought it was very strange that I was So Super Pleased that I was asking that. But I rode home so happy that I was able to pull it off 🙂