Social activity returned to 4th gear within the second day I was back. Let´s sing, let´s go out for dinner with the guest speaker, let´s watch the game/a movie together, let´s cook together, come over for dinner, etc etc. It´s fun! Today there is a birthday party by Wold See, a lake half an hour bike ride from Oldenburg. It is surrounded by trees and you get there by a small mud road. The birthday girl planned to decorate it with candles hanging from the branches of the surrounding trees. I think it will be very pretty!
Jazz/Pop Choir has started again on Monday evenings. The department had its monthly social gathering at the Loft last to last Thursday. The very next day we had a WG-psycho night where we all watched The Shining together.
I’m looking at everything I use and wondering; Where did this come from? How was it made? What did I kill for it? So maybe I didn’t hold the knife but as a consumer, I am what feeds the system to continue doing what it does.
I couldn´t help feeling a little disillusioned about getting ahead in science. It seems that networking, having the right friends, is important wherever you go, in any field. And it sometimes results in being the final factor beyond qualification and ability. Professors get authorship in more publications just because they form a collaboration with some people even though they actually haven´t done any of the work for that study. The scientific community isn´t deviod of human nature. I don´t know what made me expect it to be. It will be a challenge to be in it without falling in line with these kinds of shortcuts. Let´s see what the following years throw my way.
Love and relationships themselves take so much effort. They are so emotionally risky, divorce rates are climbing and extramarital affairs are so commonplace that people talk about them almost casually. So why do people get excited about falling in love? Why do they still try to get married? What keeps them so optimistic and happy? Why don’t they feel an immediate dread when they feel like their connection with someone is deepening into more than friendship? Why doesn’t it scare them off?
Yes I have a problem with the fact that women themselves, that too, those specialised in science where questioning is the core of its method, practice, justify and propagate (perhaps without realising it) inequality, and social rules that have no more reason or role than to suppress women from reaching their potentials.